Tip #1

Be super careful at what paparazzi see

Speculation was huge thing for Blaine and I, in our relationship people speculated I was his boyfriend for months before they knew. While we were always careful, I slipped up more than once. We rarely saw each other up until the summer before I would start my senior year of high school that I spent mostly flying to where ever Blaine was. As much as I hate to admit it we were in that 'honeymoon stage' of our relationship and it was as if we had missed so much and so all that we wanted is to with each other all the time. So we were pictured together all the time.
I remember so clearly, walking in to the mall in Lima the first time I ever saw anything about us. We were on the front of some magazine I don't remember the name, and my friends were all like jumping up and down with the caption 'Is this Blaine Andersons boyfriend?' for the world to see. My friends knew about Blaine and I by this time and I had no idea how to react to this I hadn't even known there were people taking our picture luckily were just walking and laughing. They hadn't caught us kissing or holding had just simply enjoying each other's company. That night I skype'd Blaine and he just shrugged and said we would be more careful then he pouted and said he missed me, two days later I was on a flight to Miami, Florida, because I missed him to.
I was obviously the one who fucked up though, I was walking out of a radio station after hanging up a call, I was behind Blaine and the boys when paparazzi started taking pictures covering my eyes and holding my phone. My picture was taken and so was my screensaver of my phone, a picture of Blaine and I, ironically from when I visited him in Miami, kissing on the beach in our bathing suits. There was no way out of it the zoomed in and it was everywhere in hours. Blaine obviously didn't care as he didn't like hiding our relationship in the first place he only did it because, Blaine Anderson would do anything for me and I the same, which is why I sucked it up and the next day held my boyfriends hand down a public road for the very first time.

Tip #2

Don't hide a relationship from the media

This tip is simple really. It doesn't work, all it does is stress you out and strain your relationship.



Tip #3

Don't annoy the fans

Simple, right? Wrong. I unfortunately learnt this the hard way. In a way I totally deserved the backlash, maybe not the death threats or the death threats on my friends, family and to bomb my home. But their just so damn touchy the slightest thing can make them go bonkers, and it's always the stupidest things as well. Now as I am 20 and not the 17 year old that waltz in and stole 'their Blaine' even though he is mine and not Kate Jenkins, from Illinois who had never in met Blaine, me and the Warblers (Daltons fandom name) have a understanding that I don't take shit from them. But Three years ago it was a very different story.

Just like when I posted on twitter 'I sometimes wish you spent less time on them and more on me' Obviously it had absolutely nothing to do with the Dalton fans and was just about how my friend focused more on boys then her friendship with me. Basically I was jealous I wasn't getting the attention I wanted from her, sad or not I don't care at the time I was pissed and didn't think about all Blaine's fans that had followed me since finding out I was 'The Kurt Hummel' that had stole Blaine Andersons heart. But the truth is I was really angry over something she had done and I didn't think. That was the first time I ever really got overwhelmed with hate from Blaine's fans and they wouldn't stop saying 'He was ours first' and 'Blaine should dump you, the boys always say we come first' and I further angered them when I decided it would be all so okay to write 'Funnily enough not everything is about you, my whole life doesn't revolve around being Blaine's boyfriend #ffs' (That means for fuck sake by the way) truth is I think that upset them even more because I was apparently not putting my boyfriend first, which was a load of shit, I put so much effort into making sure our relationship didn't just fall apart. I made sure we had skype dates, I flew out to see him when I could, we didn't really go on great big spectacle of dates, just cute little dates in hole in the walls we could finds so no one would ever expect to see Blaine Anderson there and made sure our sex life didn't take a hit, because apparently we saw so little of each other we lost our virginities to each other only three months into our relationship, but other stuff had already been happening.

I guess you could say I put A LOT more in then Blaine, but he was just so busy and we both fell so quickly because we just picked off where we left when we were friends that it was hard to get out. Now I actually don't know how we go through, but I guess we were just meant to be. But back to the fans, when I picked up the call that night I was expecting a ' You have to be careful, we have gone over this it isn't good for the bands image to have our boyfriends or for the others girlfriends dissing the fans' but it never came all I got was a 'Are you okay baby?' and I just cried down the phone to my poor sweet helpless boyfriend and he coo'd and told me be okay because what else could he do he was in Los Angeles and I was in Lima, Ohio. I never signed up for this being a famous boyfriend, it was and still is a lot of pressure and being bullied by Blaine's fans just hurt. They didn't know me and yet they felt they could just say mean things behind their computers. I deleted my twitter that night, and made a new twitter and made it private and only my friends could see what I tweeted. It was only six months later that I finally made it un private and I had redeemed myself in their light and I just began embracing that they weren't going anywhere and well neither was I because I was 100% head over heels in love with Blaine Anderson.